Do you worry a lot? Three ways to deal with your chronic worries

Do you worry a lot? How to deal with worries which don’t go away? Which keeps going on repeatedly in your mind?

We primarily worry about problems, both real as well as perceived problems.

We worry about problems that can be solved and also worry about problems that cannot be solved. If a problem can be solved, there is no need to worry about it. If a problem cannot be solved, what is the use of worrying about?

It is easier said than done isn’t it?

We also worry about problems in the present or anticipated in the near future, or hypothetical problems that we imagine, or expect to happen in the future.

When we worry about problems that are real, in the present, on which we have some influence on, can be worked upon to some level of fruition towards the solution.
When we worry upon problems that are real, in the present on which we don’t have any level of influence, we only waste our time effort and energy.
When we worry upon problems that are real, that could possibly happen in the future, all we can do is at best be prepared for it.
When we worry about problems that are hypothetical and imaginary, but not have any significant influence on the same, its only wastes our time effort and energy. These worries can become endless and can consume precious time and energy from us.

So if there is a possible solution to a problem, it is possible for us to invest our energy and focus on the same to arrive at a solution for the problem. If it is not the case, how do we deal with our worry?

Embrace uncertainty

It is the uncertainty, of not knowing sure what would happen, that troubles you. Especially on areas where you don’t have an influence on, uncertainty is still higher. When you accept and embrace the uncertainty, it loses its power on you.

Stay in the NOW mindfully

Learn to stay in the now, be aware of whatever is happening in the present. Utilize all your senses to ground yourself in the present in a non judging manner. Even if you mind strays to the future and starts worrying, gently pull the attention back to the now.

Do a Reframe

Imagine the worst case scenario, and write it down in as much detail as possible. Identify at least find Positive possibilities that you can derive out of the worst case scenario. This takes away the sting of the worst case scenario in your mind, at the same time keeping you prepared to deal with it. This releases the energy and effort that is blocked in worrying about the scenario which can be utilized in other productive areas.

About the Author:

Kala Balasubramanian is certified Counselling Psychologist/Psychotherapist with a Masters in Counselling and Psychotherapy, Diplomas in Counselling and has further certifications specializing in couple/marriage/relationship counselling and family counselling. She provides a supportive, understanding, professional and confidential environment to work with clients – Individuals and Couples explore their emotions, help them understand and manage their challenges, relationships and stress better.