Three ways to improve your bonding and intimacy in your relationship

Any relationship there is bound to be conflicts and difficult situations. At the same time there will always be pleasant interactions as well. It is generally recommended that for every negative interaction there needs to be at least three positive interactions within the couple. 

So when we talk about dealing with conflicts in an adaptive manner, it is equally important to also talk about how to increase the positive interactions among the couple.

Three steps to quickly improve and increase the positive interactions between the couple.

1. Be kind and polite to each other:

You try to be polite and courteous to so many people in your daily life.  You are polite to strangers, acquaintances, are courteous and polite to your colleagues, polite to your superiors at work, and so on. If you can be polite, courteous and kind to your partner, it can go a long way in forging a very strong bond with your partner.  Request for what you want from them in a polite manner rather than demand.  Show kindness in every interaction.

2. Talk to each other, have real conversations, share:

Communication is the bedrock of any relationship.  Talking to each other can be about how the day was, was there anything interesting in the day, are there any difficulties faced in the day,  it can be about any common area of interest, it can be about sharing your past experiences, or even future plans, your fears and aspirations.  Let communication be a dialogue where both partners listen to each other and respond to each other.  Ensure that you show interest in each other’s lives, challenges and progress.

3. Maintain respect and care in every interaction:

No matter what you talk about, no matter what you fight about, whatever words you choose, whatever gesture you make, let it be respectful and let it show care to your partner.  Even if you are angry and frustrated, still show respect and care in your communication and in your interactions.

To start with, these three behaviors that you incorporate in your interactions with your partner, will ensure there is a strong bonding that you create among the two of you, and it will ensure that the strong bond doesn’t get damaged significantly because of wear and tear of daily life, disagreements and conflicts between the two of you.

 

About the Author:

Kala Balasubramanian is certified Counselling Psychologist/Psychotherapist with a Masters in Counselling and Psychotherapy, Diplomas in Counselling and has further certifications specializing in couple/marriage/relationship counselling and family counselling.  She provides a supportive, understanding, professional and confidential environment to work with clients – Individuals and Couples explore their emotions, help them understand and manage their challenges, relationships and stress better.